How We Found Out + My First Trimester
Where do I even begin? I'm not even quite sure where this year has gone at this point because somehow we're already nearing the end of August and I feel like I just started writing 2018 on everything. First of all, I'm already 3 weeks late writing this so I better just jump right in before I forget everything! Mom/Pregnancy brain is a real thing folks. And it sets in early!
Let me get the personal, what everyone wants to know, or what you're all thinking part out of the way first. Mario and I have known we wanted to have children (yes, I said children, I'll get to that part later) since we were dating. That's something that has always been really important to me and I've felt that you should establish it ahead of time in a relationship. The "when" part was the never ending question between us. We knew we wanted some time alone together because kids are forever and we'll never be "just us two" ever again, BUT we also didn't want to wait forever because we wanted to be young(ish) parents. It's funny because when I was a kid I always said I wanted to get married at 24 and have kids at 26. I didn't quite follow that... I got married at 20 and I will be 24 when our little one is born. Mario is 26 though so close enough haha! Apparently Aretha Franklin had her first baby at 12 so I think I'm doing pretty good. We're coming up on our 4 year anniversary and for 4 straight years we've had multiple "baby talks." And no not the kind where we talk in baby voices, but the kind where we discuss when to have one hahahaha. One of us was always ready when the other wasn't, but this year we were both on the same page. I also had this irrational fear since I was younger that I wouldn't be able to have kids and it's something so much more commonly talked about these days that I thought it wouldn't happen or would take awhile. When I went in for my annual check up she was so excited because she's a firm believer in having kids young, go figure! She said it could take up to a year and if it didn't happen, we'd explore other options. Mario and I figured awesome, that's perfect!....
Well, here I am writing this five or so months after that appointment and looks like it didn't take a year after all!! In fact, when we went in for our first appointment (and also Mario's first time in that kind of doctor office) she says upon coming into the room, "well that didn't take long!"
Okay, so how did we find out? Mario and I went with our good friends, Nikki and Timothy, to Alaska at the beginning of June (one day I'll write a post about that too haha). I noticed that I felt sick any time I ate, but the month prior I had done a no gluten/dairy/soy/grains diet so I attributed it to the fact that I was reintroducing those foods into my body. We were there for 11 days and looking back there were a lot of signs that I ignored. The one that finally did it was one day I was driving us somewhere and I got extremely tired to the point of not being able to drive anymore... at 3 in the afternoon mind you. I had to pull over and have Mario take over. That was when I got suspicious and Mario was already at the point of questioning every symptom I was having so the next morning we got up before Nikki and Timothy and went to the grocery store to get a test then brought us all back breakfast. In the days prior, Mario hurt his ankle, so we told them to take the car and go exploring and that we would have a quiet day at the house or walk into town. That was the day I took the test, on June 8th, which was exactly 6 weeks of pregnancy to the day, come to find out. Mario didn't believe me at first, but it was preeeetttyyyy positive. No doubt about it when I was already that far along. He made me take a second test the next day, so I did, and it was still positive. We ended up telling our friends the next day because it was getting a little too suspicious (or I'm paranoid) that I suddenly stopped drinking on our trip after multiple margaritas and brewery trips prior. My goodness what a whirlwind. Looking back, there are so many funny stories of that trip, especially knowing that I was pregnant and didn't know it. I'll touch on some of those in the Alaska Blog when I get around to it.
After we got back and went to our first doctor's appointment, we told a select few people and everyone I work with (so that I wouldn't over exert myself lifting dining tables into people's cars before hitting 12 weeks), but we mostly wanted to keep it close knit so that we could enjoy the news without the opinions that come with it. I would consider myself a pretty strong person in that aspect in that I've learned not to care so much about others opinions or viewpoints on different subjects, but it's still nice to have the personal time to take in the news. But very, VERY hard to keep a secret! It definitely helped being able to go to work every day and have it out in the open, but volunteering at Norco and going to meetings was ROUGH! You feel like everyone MUST know and every look in your direction you feel like they're analyzing your body shape. Like I said, paranoid.
As far as how I felt in the first trimester, I honestly expected a lot worse. I know that's so rare and I feel for people who get extremely sick. I thought for sure I'd follow in my mom's footsteps with pregnancy. She always said she knew every tile in the bathroom at her job so I figured that would be my life. I can probably count on one hand how many times I needed to run in that direction. Other than that, I would feel nauseous just about every hour of the day, but as long as I ate something small it would subside... until the next hour. I would wake up every day and have a hard time getting out of bed. I've never been someone that ate the moment I got up, so that was an adjustment. I learned to keep crackers next to the bed, set my alarm 30 minutes early, eat a few saltines when I woke up, and then sit upright until needing to get ready for work. I think I read about doing that on the Baby Center app and it was a game changer. I also had the ability to fall asleep at any given time. If I was sitting, resting, or laying down, I could fall asleep mid-sentence talking to someone. I'm usually the biggest night owl, but 8 pm bed times sounded glorious. Even 6 or 7 pm at times, if I'm honest. Also, I've become a crier full force at the drop of a hat whether it's happy or sad. And I am NOT usually a crier so it's very unnerving and I hate it. Oh, and heart burn... not too often, but when it hits I can't sleep for the life of me - so the opposite of what I said above.
All in all, aside from being super uncomfortably nauseous, the first trimester wasn't too bad. Let's hope that doesn't mean it gets worse from here, but at the end of the day, we're super excited for this baby and can't wait for it's arrival. Wow, of all of the talking I've done, I just realized I left out some important information! Baby T is due on February 1, 2019 and is measuring 4 days ahead of schedule. My doctor just says that means it will probably make its arrival on or near my due date considering it's our first baby. Which tells me I'm sure I'll be super late regardless cause life. I forgot to tell Mario that at our first appointment we would hear the heartbeat, but I'm glad I didn't because it was super sweet to see him tear up. They said it was really strong and right where it should be at 176 and they were very happy with the progress. The funny part was when she said it was the most mellow baby she's ever seen, we'll see if that sticks!! hahaha. I'll share some photos below of ultrasounds and some never before seen moments from us telling friends and family. (We told my in-law's using the exact copy of the book they used to read to Mario when he was younger). And as far as if we want more kids, we do, but he'd like 2 and I'd like 3 so we'll see down the line who wins that battle!
I promise my Second Trimester blog post will be much shorter, so if you made it this long you deserve a cupcake! Huge thank you to everyone who has expressed their well wishes and happiness to us, as well as already given gifts, we are so excited and appreciate the support! We know this baby will be very loved :)