My Second Trimester
I hate to say this, but pregnancy has been pretty easy so far. And I’m being truthful on that because I think too many have the notion that it’s a difficult change for all people or pregnancy means you’re “handicapped” and that isn’t the case.
I’m generally a pretty private person so the biggest adjustment has been being okay with everyone wanting to touch me and everyone wanting to ask the same pressing questions. I feel like there’s this stigma that every conversation with a pregnant woman has to revolve around their pregnancy. Don’t get me wrong, I’m happy to answer, but some days are easier to do so than others. The latter part of my second trimester is where the most have noticed that I’m pregnant so I’m daily telling strangers, “I’m due in February; no we don’t have a name picked out; yes names are hard; we’re having a boy; I’m feeling fine so far; yes he’s our first” and so forth. It’s amazing the amount of opinions that are thrown at me on a daily basis too. I had a lady come into my work and end up just flabbergasted as to why I could possibly not have a name picked out and spent the next 10 minutes trying to suggest names (none of which I chose in case you were wondering). Or the people that tell me I’m far too tiny to be as far along as I am. I’m so thankful that I have the personality not to get offended at everything people say because frankly I’d understand if other pregnant women went and cried in the bathroom after every encounter with a person. Perhaps the most frustrating thing is having people tell me what I can and cannot do. I don’t know when it became culturally acceptable to do that. I know my own limitations. If I want help, I’ll ask for it. If I feel like I can’t do something, I won’t do it. I’m not looking to endanger myself or my son and I am still an adult who can make my own decisions. Just because I’m housing a baby doesn’t mean I am one haha.
All that being said, I do truly appreciate the questions and concerns from loved ones :)
As far as how I’ve felt this trimester…
I’ve gotten heartburn a fair amount of times, but that’s mostly brought on by Mexican food and frankly tacos are worth the trip to the bottle of Tums afterward.
Toward the end of this trimester, I’ve learned how/when not to overdo it. I do work full time as a Supervisor in retail so that limit is pretty high as it is, so teaching myself when to slow down can be a struggle.
Sneezing has become absolutely terrible and I avoid it at all costs.
I wake up at 1:30 am every single night like clock work.
I get out of breath quicker.
I haven’t had any weird cravings. Though warm chocolate chip cookies always sound fantastic…. and any kind of Asian food.
How could I forget?! My nose is always congested. Always.
Unrelated to that, I was sick one week which was no fun at all. I’d have to say getting a cold was the worst part of these months honestly. And in case you ever need to send your husband out to get medicine and he can’t find any that are approved, they’re only offered behind the counter, go figure!
Hormones have come in full swing… which is actually the most annoying part because I am not an emotional person normally. It takes A LOT to make me cry (or an episode of Chicago Fire), but being pregnant I could totally cry at the drop of a hat. It’s awful and I hate it haha.
I do find myself having to calm down quite a bit because I get easily worked up by things and frankly, I’m not interested in having high blood pressure all of the time so for the most part I avoid any contact with crazy people… which is a hard feat during the holidays in retail ;)
As far as milestones go…
I finally gave into maternity clothes after dragging my heels for quite awhile, but let’s be real no one wants to see me walking around with my pants unbuttoned and my shirt to my belly button so you gotta do what you gotta do. I will admit growing a human does have the advantage of not having to suck it in all the time and making fat look cute so I’m actually far less picky with clothing than I was before!
Because I have an anterior placenta (basically a barrier between the baby and the front of my belly) it took a lot longer for me to be able to feel him moving around. So the formerly mellow baby in there is now doing all kinds of dance and soccer practice, but I can’t say I hate it because it’s the absolute coolest feeling.
Having an anterior placenta also meant he was growing toward my back and not out, so several weeks into my second trimester he finally made himself known and now there’s a pretty nice bump joining me everywhere I go.
I’m able to hear his heartbeat at every appointment. It’s nice and strong each time and I’m like wow okay there’s going to be a baby here soon. Yes I know, I’m always late to the party in excitement.
I also had to get my flu shot this past month and drug my mom in with me as well. Mario and my dad followed suit. The joys of having a baby during flu season!
Prenatal vitamins became MUCH easier to take this trimester!
I had to get my glucose test in October as well and I’d always heard people complain about it but I never knew you had to be there 2.5 hours! When I was trying to make an appointment, everywhere was booked and then I noticed that apparently labs are on Yelp too because the place I had my first trimester blood drawn at had ONE STAR! So because of that I happened upon one closer to my house that had skyrocketing reviews and I was convinced it had to be amazing because who raves about getting a needle stuck into their veins. So special shoutout to Carley and Nina at the LabCorp in Newport Beach because I’d spend 2.5 hours with them any day, they were awesome! And in case you were curious the test came back negative and the glucose drink is indeed NOT terrible. Don’t let people lie to you. It’s also only maybe 8oz so it’s completely doable.
This trimester we also went to our Maternity Orientation at the hospital and did a Baby Saver Class so we’re definitely in preparation mode.
I’ve almost finished the nursery after having to peel my brain away from Pinterest and just go with where my mind was taking me and stop obsessing. I’m also all about throwing out everything we own and starting a minimalistic life - nesting at its finest.
We celebrated our 4th Anniversary and took the bump to its first concert. That was wild and so much fun! I surprised Mario with VIP tickets to see Midland, Brett Young, and Thomas Rhett. I didn’t even realize until we got there that it included a pre-show performance so we about died of excitement. And after Mario asked Thomas Rhett jokingly if we could name our son after him, I made the mistake of putting that on Instagram and then had to relinquish what I said which made more people outraged than I anticipated. So no his name is not Thomas, sorry to be the bearer of bad news!
Like I said at the beginning, things have been really really easy so far and I have no major complaints! The end is in sight and pretty soon I’ll be eating feta cheese and queso fresco again while holding a little babe. Can’t wait.